It's about what you don't do.

I read this a couple of years back, and read it again this afternoon and I still love it. Utilitarian concepts of charity - I can't argue with it, and I love it, but I still can't do it.

"Then, if we value the life of a child more than going to fancy restaurants, the next time we dine out we will know that we could have done something better with our money.

If that makes living a morally decent life extremely arduous, well, then that is the way things are. If we don't do it, then we should at least know that we are failing to live a morally decent life — not because it is good to wallow in guilt but because knowing where we should be going is the first step toward heading in that direction."